Politics · Identity · Power

At the Table

A taste of what's inside

Opening
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What's a conversation you've been putting off?
Personal & Identity
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Have you ever felt like you were living between worlds? What was that like?
Perspective & Beliefs
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Is there a politician you disagree with but respect? Why?
Power & Responsibility
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What do you think the other side gets right that your side rarely admits?
Vulnerability & Honesty
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Has a personal relationship ever changed your politics, or has your politics ever cost you a relationship?
Systems & Society
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What policy do you support that you think most people in this room might not?

Not another party game.

At the Table was made for the conversations most people avoid, about politics, identity, power, and what we actually believe. The kind of conversations that change how you see someone, or yourself.

Grew up discussing politics around the dinner table. Built this so others could too.

How to use it

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Draw a card
Pull from any section, ease in with Opening, or go straight to the deep end.
02
Read it aloud
Everyone answers. No one is wrong. The goal is honesty, not agreement.
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Go deeper
Use the Go Deeper reference card to keep the conversation going when it matters.

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50 cards
At the Table
50 cards across 7 sections — from Opening through Power & Responsibility to Reflection & Grounding. Questions that go beyond small talk into the conversations that actually matter.
Opening Identity Beliefs Power Honesty Society Reflection
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SF Edition
San Francisco-specific questions about housing, tech, civic life, displacement, and the city's future. Made for SF residents, powerful for anyone engaged in local politics.
Housing Tech Civic Life Justice Belonging
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A dinner table in
the City Beautiful.

I grew up in Chandigarh, India, at a dinner table where politics was never off-limits. My family spanned the full spectrum, different beliefs, different instincts, different conclusions. Disagreement was never a problem. It was the point. It was how we understood each other.

That stayed with me through law school, through a graduate degree in international law and diplomacy, and through years of civic work in San Francisco, as an advocate, a commissioner, and someone who has spent a long time thinking about how policy actually shapes people's lives.

The moment At the Table became real was an evening with friends over a glass of wine. I found myself walking them through San Francisco's political landscape, the tensions, the tradeoffs, the history. People who saw things differently started really listening to each other. Someone changed their mind about something. Not because they were argued into it. Because they felt safe enough to think out loud.

That's what I wanted to bottle. We don't avoid hard conversations because we don't care. We avoid them because we have not been given the right conditions. At the Table is my attempt to create those conditions, for your dinner table, your living room, your family, your city.

— Kudrat Kontilis

"I left my heart in San Francisco"